1. Turn on automatic updates. After installing your operating system, you usually forget to pay attention on operating system updates. If your operating system is not updated for protection against loopholes and security threats found after you installed it, your computer may be vulnerable to outside world. Hackers can get access to your computer by using these loopholes and they can do anything with your computer. So, to keep you safe, turn on automatic updates. When automatic updates are turned on your operating system is updated frequently and you will be safe from unwanted trouble. You can turn on automatic updates from Control Panel => Security Center => Automatic Updates. You must be logged in as Administrator to change this setting.
2. Turn on Windows Firewall. Windows Firewall is a barrier between your computer and outside Internet. It protects you by filtering incoming and outgoing traffic and allows only trusted programs to communicate through Internet. You can turn on Windows Firewall from Control Panel => Windows Firewall. You must be logged in as Administrator to change this setting.
3. Install good anti-virus software. Anti-virus software protects your computer from viruses that can damage your computer. Only installing anti-virus software is not enough. Your anti-virus software must be updated regularly with latest virus definition database, as new viruses are found daily.
4. Run windows in a restricted mode. When you log in using a limited account, you are protecting your computer from various threats, as limited account runs in restricted mode and can not damage your computer by changing system files or registry. In fact, limited account can not install new programs and can not write to system files or registry, thus making you safe from unwanted programs which gets installed automatically from Internet without your knowledge. Log in as Administrator only when you want to do some maintenance work or install new programs.
5. Do NOT click on untrusted links. You should not click any link received in your email, unless you trust the sender. If you click on this untrusted links, it can take you to fake websites and can steal your user name, password, credit card details, or can install unwanted programs without your knowledge. Instead of clicking on the link you received in your email, copy the link address and paste it in a new browser window. Before writing your user name, password, credit card and any other personal details, recheck the domain name in address bar.
6. Do NOT write in pop up windows. You should write your user name, password, credit card and any other personal details in main window only. If during your work, any pop up window opens asking your password or credit card details, close it immediately. DO NOT write your personal information in any pop up window.
Thursday, December 2, 2010
Saturday, July 17, 2010
10 Signs It’s Time to Leave Your Job
Do you get into the office without a plan of action for the day? Are you not being rewarded for your efforts? Does your boss often pull you down and embarrass you in front of colleagues?
If any or all of these ring true, it might be time to shake things up.
Here are 10 signs that could indicate that it’s time for you to move on – either from your current job function or from your organization – to other adventures.
1. Social networking but not working
Are Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter taking up more of your working day than preparing that PowerPoint presentation? If your company doesn’t allow access to these sites, perhaps your energies are focused on finding proxy sites which allow you to access sites that have been blocked by your company.
Or, do you simply dread coming to office and wait for the day to end quickly?
If this happens some days a week, then maybe you simply need a holiday. “But if one spends more than a month populating Farmville on Facebook, then yes, it’s stagnation and you need to move on,” says Purvi Sheth, chief executive officer of Mumbai management consulting firm Shilpusti Consultants.
2. Been there, done that
If your job has become so routine or monotonous that you can do most of it without thinking much, what are you doing in it? Essentially, you are not learning much or growing in that role, so you won’t be able to stay motivated for long. “Careers are not ponds, they are streams; they have got to be going somewhere from somewhere,” says Dony Kuriakose, director of Delhi-based recruitment firm Edge Executive Search Pvt. Ltd. “If you’re not moving, you’re dead in the water.”
Remember that if you have become too complacent and start taking the company for granted, your employer will soon recognize that, putting your role in jeopardy.
3. Not challenged enough
This is related to the point above. But if you feel that your organization is not giving you the right exposure or a challenging enough position, you could end up becoming very frustrated. “Take the initiative of engaging with (your) employer and…ask for more responsibilities,” says Pankaj Arora, managing director of Protiviti Consulting Pvt. Ltd, a business consulting and audit firm. If that doesn’t work, look for challenges elsewhere within or outside your organization.
4. Unmet goals
You want to become a team leader or a business head but your employer is moving you around into different departments without really promoting you. “It is time for you to move on when you feel your career objectives are not being met or fulfilled by your employer,” says Ms. Sheth.
5. Too big for your shoes
You were good at your first job, so you were promoted to the next level and the next level and so on. But now you have reached a position which is too much for you to handle. This is popularly referred to as the Peter Principle which states that in a hierarchy, employees rise to a level of their incompetence.
Either you need to re-skill and reinvent yourself pretty quickly to survive in that role or you need to move into another position which is a better fit for you.
6. Closed to change
Today’s organizations are nimble on their feet and are often changing their processes or businesses to meet delivery and cost pressures. If you can’t handle that change because you are too set in your ways, you could end up getting left behind. Or, maybe you don’t agree with your organization’s changes at a philosophical or an ethical level. “There are certain reasons why you work at a place and there are certain things that enthuse you,” says Mr. Kuriakose. “If those core issues change and you suddenly find that you’re working for a place that you wouldn’t have joined” it might be time to rethink.
7. Politics over mechanics
Every organization has politics and it’s smart to keep on top of major changes as well as the movers and shakers of your organization. But if your professional relationships at work have become so entangled and complicated that they are keeping you from your work, that’s a problem. Don’t let politics become more important to you than the mechanics of your job.
8. You’ve been overlooked — again
Are your batch mates from school and college more successful than you are? Or is your company promoting people with less experience and fewer achievements above you? Figure out why that is happening. If they’re working harder and are smarter than you, then consider adding to whatever skills are keeping you from that next job. But if your company is overlooking you, then it might be time to go where you get more recognition.
9. Don’t want your boss’s job?
We typically envy our bosses not only for their higher salaries but also for the responsibility and authority they command. But if you don’t aspire to be in your boss’s position at some time in the future, then it’s time to look around and reconsider your career plans. You can’t stay in your current position forever. Not everyone has to be the top dog, but a career path that promises advancement and satisfaction is a good road to be on.
10. Evil thoughts about your boss?
Ok, so all of us have some evil thoughts about our bosses every now and then. That’s normal. If you hate him or her as a person, deal with it. But if your professional relationship is troubled, then you have a problem. “You have to work with all kinds of people,” says Mr. Kuriakose. However, a boss who is always pulling you down, and maybe embarrassing you in front of colleagues, could be harmful for your morale and progress. Time for some introspection and perhaps an exit strategy.
- INDIA CAREER JOURNAL, LINKEDLN
If any or all of these ring true, it might be time to shake things up.
Here are 10 signs that could indicate that it’s time for you to move on – either from your current job function or from your organization – to other adventures.
1. Social networking but not working
Are Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter taking up more of your working day than preparing that PowerPoint presentation? If your company doesn’t allow access to these sites, perhaps your energies are focused on finding proxy sites which allow you to access sites that have been blocked by your company.
Or, do you simply dread coming to office and wait for the day to end quickly?
If this happens some days a week, then maybe you simply need a holiday. “But if one spends more than a month populating Farmville on Facebook, then yes, it’s stagnation and you need to move on,” says Purvi Sheth, chief executive officer of Mumbai management consulting firm Shilpusti Consultants.
2. Been there, done that
If your job has become so routine or monotonous that you can do most of it without thinking much, what are you doing in it? Essentially, you are not learning much or growing in that role, so you won’t be able to stay motivated for long. “Careers are not ponds, they are streams; they have got to be going somewhere from somewhere,” says Dony Kuriakose, director of Delhi-based recruitment firm Edge Executive Search Pvt. Ltd. “If you’re not moving, you’re dead in the water.”
Remember that if you have become too complacent and start taking the company for granted, your employer will soon recognize that, putting your role in jeopardy.
3. Not challenged enough
This is related to the point above. But if you feel that your organization is not giving you the right exposure or a challenging enough position, you could end up becoming very frustrated. “Take the initiative of engaging with (your) employer and…ask for more responsibilities,” says Pankaj Arora, managing director of Protiviti Consulting Pvt. Ltd, a business consulting and audit firm. If that doesn’t work, look for challenges elsewhere within or outside your organization.
4. Unmet goals
You want to become a team leader or a business head but your employer is moving you around into different departments without really promoting you. “It is time for you to move on when you feel your career objectives are not being met or fulfilled by your employer,” says Ms. Sheth.
5. Too big for your shoes
You were good at your first job, so you were promoted to the next level and the next level and so on. But now you have reached a position which is too much for you to handle. This is popularly referred to as the Peter Principle which states that in a hierarchy, employees rise to a level of their incompetence.
Either you need to re-skill and reinvent yourself pretty quickly to survive in that role or you need to move into another position which is a better fit for you.
6. Closed to change
Today’s organizations are nimble on their feet and are often changing their processes or businesses to meet delivery and cost pressures. If you can’t handle that change because you are too set in your ways, you could end up getting left behind. Or, maybe you don’t agree with your organization’s changes at a philosophical or an ethical level. “There are certain reasons why you work at a place and there are certain things that enthuse you,” says Mr. Kuriakose. “If those core issues change and you suddenly find that you’re working for a place that you wouldn’t have joined” it might be time to rethink.
7. Politics over mechanics
Every organization has politics and it’s smart to keep on top of major changes as well as the movers and shakers of your organization. But if your professional relationships at work have become so entangled and complicated that they are keeping you from your work, that’s a problem. Don’t let politics become more important to you than the mechanics of your job.
8. You’ve been overlooked — again
Are your batch mates from school and college more successful than you are? Or is your company promoting people with less experience and fewer achievements above you? Figure out why that is happening. If they’re working harder and are smarter than you, then consider adding to whatever skills are keeping you from that next job. But if your company is overlooking you, then it might be time to go where you get more recognition.
9. Don’t want your boss’s job?
We typically envy our bosses not only for their higher salaries but also for the responsibility and authority they command. But if you don’t aspire to be in your boss’s position at some time in the future, then it’s time to look around and reconsider your career plans. You can’t stay in your current position forever. Not everyone has to be the top dog, but a career path that promises advancement and satisfaction is a good road to be on.
10. Evil thoughts about your boss?
Ok, so all of us have some evil thoughts about our bosses every now and then. That’s normal. If you hate him or her as a person, deal with it. But if your professional relationship is troubled, then you have a problem. “You have to work with all kinds of people,” says Mr. Kuriakose. However, a boss who is always pulling you down, and maybe embarrassing you in front of colleagues, could be harmful for your morale and progress. Time for some introspection and perhaps an exit strategy.
- INDIA CAREER JOURNAL, LINKEDLN
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
Dr Tathagat Tulsi, 22, becomes Professor Tulsi at IIT Bombay
He completed high school at the age of 9, had a B.Sc at 10, an M.Sc in Physics at 12, and a PhD in Quantum Computing from the Indian Institute of Science (IISc), Bangalore, at 21. In 2003, Time named him among the world's seven most gifted youngsters. Now, at age 22, Patna-born prodigy Tathagat Avtar Tulsi has become possibly the youngest assistant professor at IIT.
Tulsi will teach Physics at IIT Bombay from July 19, having chosen the institute over Waterloo University, Canada, and the Indian Institute of Science Education & Research (IISER), Bhopal, both of which had offered him jobs.
"I turned down Waterloo despite an impressive pay package because I do not want to go abroad now," Tulsi told The Indian Express over the phone from Patna. "My dream is to set up a lab focused on quantum computation in India, and one day help develop a largescale quantum computation-based supercomputer. IIT Bombay offers me these possibilities."
IIT Bombay confirmed that Tulsi is set to join its faculty. In an appointment letter sent on June 30, IIT Bombay Director Prof Devang V Khakar informed Tulsi that the institute's Board of Governors was pleased to offer him assistant professorship on contract at the Department of Physics.
Hailed early as a wonder boy, Tulsi suffered humiliation in August 2001 when a delegation of scientists taken by the Department of Science & Technology to Lindau in Germany for an interaction with Nobel laureates, suggested that he was a "fake prodigy" who had "mugged up" jargon which he spouted unthinkingly.
A hurt Tulsi went into a shell for several years. He returned to news this February after he became the youngest holder of a PhD in India.
"Back then it hurt a lot. But I have put the humiliation behind me, and now feel that I have achieved something. I am very happy to join an IIT as faculty. I am looking forward to teaching and research," Tulsi said.
Saturday, June 19, 2010
FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE
* Love starts with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a tear.
* Don't cry over anyone who won't cry over you.
* Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave, and impossible to forget.
* You can only go as far as you push.
* Actions speak louder than words.
* The hardest thing to do is watch the one you love, love somebody else.
* Don't let the past hold you back; you're missing the good stuff.
* Life's short. If you don't look around once in a while, you might miss it.
* A best friend is like a four leaf clover: hard to find and lucky to have.
* If you think that the world means nothing, think again. You might mean the world to someone else.
* When it hurts to look back, and you're scared to look ahead, you can look beside you and your best friend will be there
* True friendship never ends.
* Friends are forever.
* Good friends are like stars....You don't always see them, but you know they are always there.
* Don't frown. You never know who is falling in love with your smile.
* What do you do when the only person who can make you stop crying is the person who made you cry?
* NOBODY IS PERFECT UNTIL YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH THEM. (Isn't that the truth?)
* Everything is okay in the end. If it's not okay, then it's not the end.
* Don't cry over anyone who won't cry over you.
* Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave, and impossible to forget.
* You can only go as far as you push.
* Actions speak louder than words.
* The hardest thing to do is watch the one you love, love somebody else.
* Don't let the past hold you back; you're missing the good stuff.
* Life's short. If you don't look around once in a while, you might miss it.
* A best friend is like a four leaf clover: hard to find and lucky to have.
* If you think that the world means nothing, think again. You might mean the world to someone else.
* When it hurts to look back, and you're scared to look ahead, you can look beside you and your best friend will be there
* True friendship never ends.
* Friends are forever.
* Good friends are like stars....You don't always see them, but you know they are always there.
* Don't frown. You never know who is falling in love with your smile.
* What do you do when the only person who can make you stop crying is the person who made you cry?
* NOBODY IS PERFECT UNTIL YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH THEM. (Isn't that the truth?)
* Everything is okay in the end. If it's not okay, then it's not the end.
Monday, June 14, 2010
Friendship
"A light shines on me,
Sun... brilliantly bright,
But I'm not blinded,
More toward an eternal happiness,
My friends play to astonish,
My mind plays along,
The time passes but not friendly,
Another kind of eternal,
One moment wished to never end,
Forever they remain a close friend,
Something I will fight to defend,
Just to never lose them... "
Sun... brilliantly bright,
But I'm not blinded,
More toward an eternal happiness,
My friends play to astonish,
My mind plays along,
The time passes but not friendly,
Another kind of eternal,
One moment wished to never end,
Forever they remain a close friend,
Something I will fight to defend,
Just to never lose them... "
Till the very end
"Me and you best friends
till the end
always bend never brake
nothing that would ever take (that away)
Don't even have to try
nothing that would make it die
we've been through it all
even if it will fall
we will pick it back up
so yupp
i love you
and i just hope that you love me too "
till the end
always bend never brake
nothing that would ever take (that away)
Don't even have to try
nothing that would make it die
we've been through it all
even if it will fall
we will pick it back up
so yupp
i love you
and i just hope that you love me too "
My beloved
"Forever together
you and i
together we stand
together we cry
throughout life
until the sands of the last beach
washes away with the tides
we will always be near close to eachother,
year after year
we bring eachother hope and happiness
guidance and faith
through the steady and rage
i hope you can see that with you
i will remain truely happy
love foresees all who desire it
there are no decieving lies, mixed thoughts,
or things to hide.
we remain open and true to our words
our laughs
and our smiles.
together we can travel on the thick, twisting, miles."
you and i
together we stand
together we cry
throughout life
until the sands of the last beach
washes away with the tides
we will always be near close to eachother,
year after year
we bring eachother hope and happiness
guidance and faith
through the steady and rage
i hope you can see that with you
i will remain truely happy
love foresees all who desire it
there are no decieving lies, mixed thoughts,
or things to hide.
we remain open and true to our words
our laughs
and our smiles.
together we can travel on the thick, twisting, miles."
For you..
"The way I felt for you
I felt it was very true
Before you came along
My life seemed all wrong
But you came along and dried my tears
You took away every fret and every fear
You broke through my darkness and shined some light
Like the sun you filled me with a warm delight
You seemed to erase my past
And I swore our love would forever last
But today you told me what I feared
You told me that our end neared
You said the pain was too great
And if I was to say something it was already too late
You said you would miss my gentle touch
But you did not want to talk again because the pain was too much
You said you were not right for me
You wanted me to spread my wings and be free
You said "I want you to have the best, cant you see?
I do not want to let you go, but this is how it has to be.
You are everything I've ever wanted.
It was to you my problems I confronted.
Please forget what we had
And darling, please dont be sad.
Please dont cry.
Please, please, just try.
I love you
And I know you love me too."
You turned around and slowly walked away
The pain was so great that "I love you" I was unable to say
Over and over in my head
It repeated all the things that you said
I then remember that you told me to forget you and our love
But how could I forget something I knew was sent from up above
I knew that you wanted me to move on
And that you would want me to stay strong
And for you I will do that,
Just leave my life where it is at
And then start a new one
And to shine and fill me with that delight I will find a new sun
I will find someone that you would want for me
Someone as perfect as you, you see?"
I felt it was very true
Before you came along
My life seemed all wrong
But you came along and dried my tears
You took away every fret and every fear
You broke through my darkness and shined some light
Like the sun you filled me with a warm delight
You seemed to erase my past
And I swore our love would forever last
But today you told me what I feared
You told me that our end neared
You said the pain was too great
And if I was to say something it was already too late
You said you would miss my gentle touch
But you did not want to talk again because the pain was too much
You said you were not right for me
You wanted me to spread my wings and be free
You said "I want you to have the best, cant you see?
I do not want to let you go, but this is how it has to be.
You are everything I've ever wanted.
It was to you my problems I confronted.
Please forget what we had
And darling, please dont be sad.
Please dont cry.
Please, please, just try.
I love you
And I know you love me too."
You turned around and slowly walked away
The pain was so great that "I love you" I was unable to say
Over and over in my head
It repeated all the things that you said
I then remember that you told me to forget you and our love
But how could I forget something I knew was sent from up above
I knew that you wanted me to move on
And that you would want me to stay strong
And for you I will do that,
Just leave my life where it is at
And then start a new one
And to shine and fill me with that delight I will find a new sun
I will find someone that you would want for me
Someone as perfect as you, you see?"
Never Say Never ...
"So many thoughts in my head,
as I Lye here in my bed.
There are times when I'm so confused,
and other times when I just feel used.
The pain you caused me I can't comprehend,
I wish that I could just pretend.
Pretend you didn't break my heart,
pretend you never tore it apart.
You and I were once together,
so do me a favor and never say never.
Never say we couldn't be together,
never say it couldn't last forever.
Yes it's true I still think about you,
and I want you to know I'd always be true.
Hopefully one day I can say you're mine,
hopefully one day everything will be fine."
as I Lye here in my bed.
There are times when I'm so confused,
and other times when I just feel used.
The pain you caused me I can't comprehend,
I wish that I could just pretend.
Pretend you didn't break my heart,
pretend you never tore it apart.
You and I were once together,
so do me a favor and never say never.
Never say we couldn't be together,
never say it couldn't last forever.
Yes it's true I still think about you,
and I want you to know I'd always be true.
Hopefully one day I can say you're mine,
hopefully one day everything will be fine."
Wish That I Were
"Wish that I were the moon
To softly kiss your sleep
To lie in love beside you
Caress your slumber deep
Wish that I were the stars
To light your darkest night
To hold your heart inside me
A beacon shining bright
Wish that I were the sun
To wash your every day
To color all your sunsets
Warmth that never goes away
Wish that I were the wind
To whisper breaths of love
To send a sigh of ecstasy
Enraptured from above
Wish that I were time
To give back what has passed
To ask for all and nothing
Just to be with you at last"
To softly kiss your sleep
To lie in love beside you
Caress your slumber deep
Wish that I were the stars
To light your darkest night
To hold your heart inside me
A beacon shining bright
Wish that I were the sun
To wash your every day
To color all your sunsets
Warmth that never goes away
Wish that I were the wind
To whisper breaths of love
To send a sigh of ecstasy
Enraptured from above
Wish that I were time
To give back what has passed
To ask for all and nothing
Just to be with you at last"
U CAN CHANGE
If you embrace the ideas and techniques here, your life will change, and your dreams will be there for your reaching.
Just imagine....
* feeling great about yourself and what you can achieve
* feeling the flush of success and achievement
* experience new freedom, dynamism and joy
* having the power to choose your own path in life
* being happier and healthier
* achieving all the things you seek in life
* attracting your perfect partner
* being your ideal weight
they really can all be yours, many of the techniques, ideas and actions outlined here are used either instinctively or deliberately by many of the most successful people today. Think like a winner and you will be a winner.
It is only your thoughts that can prevent you achieving your dreams and a thought can be changed.
This is a process that will change your life... but it is your choice, I will give you some of the ideas and techniques to guide you on your way.
Experience deeper understanding of yourself and how you got to where you are now and what you really want.
Release anger, jealousy, resentment, fear, doubt, anxiety and depression
Feel more empowered, those little successes and good decisions start coming more often, before you know it success is building on success,your self-esteem will soar.
Take control of your life. Start to think and react consciously, make healthy self-nurturing choices.
Learn to love and accept yourself, you will find yourself attracting positive people into your life.
Just imagine....
* feeling great about yourself and what you can achieve
* feeling the flush of success and achievement
* experience new freedom, dynamism and joy
* having the power to choose your own path in life
* being happier and healthier
* achieving all the things you seek in life
* attracting your perfect partner
* being your ideal weight
they really can all be yours, many of the techniques, ideas and actions outlined here are used either instinctively or deliberately by many of the most successful people today. Think like a winner and you will be a winner.
It is only your thoughts that can prevent you achieving your dreams and a thought can be changed.
This is a process that will change your life... but it is your choice, I will give you some of the ideas and techniques to guide you on your way.
Experience deeper understanding of yourself and how you got to where you are now and what you really want.
Release anger, jealousy, resentment, fear, doubt, anxiety and depression
Feel more empowered, those little successes and good decisions start coming more often, before you know it success is building on success,your self-esteem will soar.
Take control of your life. Start to think and react consciously, make healthy self-nurturing choices.
Learn to love and accept yourself, you will find yourself attracting positive people into your life.
SWEET POEMS
" Never Let Go "
" So restless at night, when I dream of you
I open my eyes, hoping it came true.
It didn't again so with tears in my eyes
I hold my pillow to soften the cries.
But distance means nothing in love that's true
And though I long for one touch from you,
I'll squeeze that pillow while we're apart,
You hold me too, you hold my heart.
No one has ever made me feel so complete,
My whole life was lived just so we could meet.
I'll dream of you now, on into the night,
Hoping that soon you'll be holding me tight.
My dreams will come true one day, I know,
Just hold me close, and never let go."
" So restless at night, when I dream of you
I open my eyes, hoping it came true.
It didn't again so with tears in my eyes
I hold my pillow to soften the cries.
But distance means nothing in love that's true
And though I long for one touch from you,
I'll squeeze that pillow while we're apart,
You hold me too, you hold my heart.
No one has ever made me feel so complete,
My whole life was lived just so we could meet.
I'll dream of you now, on into the night,
Hoping that soon you'll be holding me tight.
My dreams will come true one day, I know,
Just hold me close, and never let go."
LEAD A POSITIVE LIFE
Developing a positive mindset is one of the most powerful life strategies there is. Using powerful positive thinking techniques, visualizations and positive affirmations, it is possible to achieve whatever you want. Professionals and business people can use these techniques to develop personal power or gain a competitive edge. At a personal level it will transform your life, your health and renew the joy and passion for life. Imagine waking up each morning, bursting with excitement, energy and joy for the new day! It really is that powerful...
Positive affirmations and positive thinking techniques can help develop a powerful and positive attitude to life; which is an essential element in life success and good health. With this power you can turn failure around into success and take success and drive it to a whole new level. “Your positive attitude is the fuel for your success.’’
"Manifest your dreams NOW!
Live the life you want and deserve"
"Positive Affirmations can manifest your dreams"
Re-programme your thinking, let go of the negative patterns that have been sabotaging you and adopt powerful success techniques to bring you what you want.
Are You suffering poor health or
facing a healing crisis?
"Health problems often have a metapysical basis"
If you are experiencing health problems it is important to investigate any potential metaphysical causes. By examining and dealing with underlying psychological and emotional issues you can dramatically improve your heath and healing outcomes.
Place your Cosmic Order
with the Universe now!
"Let the Universe bring you what you need"
The universe is infinitly abundant, just place your Cosmic order with the universe and allow it to manifest what you want. Learn how here!
Our beliefs define our reality
"What we believe about ourselves and life become true for us"
If we expect and believe that life is a struggle for us and that people treat us badly then that is what our experience will be. Likewise if we love ourselves and believe that we deserve all good in our lives and have a right to loving healthy relationships, that is what we will experience.
Learn to get what you really want
and love the things you already have.
"Understand the true nature of wealth and prosperity"
Stop 'poverty thinking' NOW! The world is infinitly abundant and your prosperity is there for the taking. Learn how to reach out and accept it into your life.
Our Thoughts are Creative
"What we think creates our reality"
To make changes in our lives we must clear out old negative thoughts of not being good enough or deserving, and nourish ourselves with new positive and loving thoughts
"Secrets of the Universe for
Love and Romance"
"People we attract are a mirror of our own inner beliefs about ourselves and the world"
Take charge of your romantic life, supercharge your existing relationship or attract your perfect new partner. Stop accepting less than you deserve in your relationships and start sending your attraction quotient through the roof!
Love and Accept yourself
"Self approval and self acceptance are the keys to positive change"
self criticism breaks the spirit and undermines an individuals ability to make positive change or attract goodness into their life. Just accept yourself as you are right now, today; this allows the body, mind and spirit to relax and stop worrying. Once we let go, we can start to allow the good things in.
Fed up with being overweight?
"Unblock the emotional barriers to your success now"
Is'nt it time you tried something new, that is designed to to eliminate the mental blocks that keep sabotaging your weight loss efforts? No matter what method you use to lose wieght, getting your mental attitude straight is going to supercharge it's effectiveness!
Forgive and Release the Past
"Forgiveness is the key to your own release"
Holding onto old anger, hurt and upset causes dis-ease within the body. If you do not forgive, YOU remain the victim.
Sometimes the hardest person to forgive is ourselves for things we feel we have or have not done. Forgive yourself and others, let it go, release the hurt and anger.
Be prepared to Love Yourself
"Love is the most powerful healing force of all"
Real healing love comes from within... Loving the self brings about healing on all levels and in all things. When you love yourself you do not hurt yourself and you will not hurt others. You cannot truly love another if you do not love yourself
Just be willing
"have an open mind and an open heart"
Developing a positive mindset is one of the most powerful life strategies there is. Using powerful positive thinking techniques, visualizations and positive affirmations, it is possible to achieve whatever you want. Professionals and business people can use these techniques to develop personal power or gain a competitive edge. At a personal level it will transform your life, your health and renew the joy and passion for life. Imagine waking up each morning, bursting with excitement, energy and joy for the new day! It really is that powerful...
Positive affirmations and positive thinking techniques can help develop a powerful and positive attitude to life; which is an essential element in life success and good health. With this power you can turn failure around into success and take success and drive it to a whole new level. “Your positive attitude is the fuel for your success.’’
"Manifest your dreams NOW!
Live the life you want and deserve"
"Positive Affirmations can manifest your dreams"
Re-programme your thinking, let go of the negative patterns that have been sabotaging you and adopt powerful success techniques to bring you what you want.
Are You suffering poor health or
facing a healing crisis?
"Health problems often have a metapysical basis"
If you are experiencing health problems it is important to investigate any potential metaphysical causes. By examining and dealing with underlying psychological and emotional issues you can dramatically improve your heath and healing outcomes.
Place your Cosmic Order
with the Universe now!
"Let the Universe bring you what you need"
The universe is infinitly abundant, just place your Cosmic order with the universe and allow it to manifest what you want. Learn how here!
Our beliefs define our reality
"What we believe about ourselves and life become true for us"
If we expect and believe that life is a struggle for us and that people treat us badly then that is what our experience will be. Likewise if we love ourselves and believe that we deserve all good in our lives and have a right to loving healthy relationships, that is what we will experience.
Learn to get what you really want
and love the things you already have.
"Understand the true nature of wealth and prosperity"
Stop 'poverty thinking' NOW! The world is infinitly abundant and your prosperity is there for the taking. Learn how to reach out and accept it into your life.
Our Thoughts are Creative
"What we think creates our reality"
To make changes in our lives we must clear out old negative thoughts of not being good enough or deserving, and nourish ourselves with new positive and loving thoughts
"Secrets of the Universe for
Love and Romance"
"People we attract are a mirror of our own inner beliefs about ourselves and the world"
Take charge of your romantic life, supercharge your existing relationship or attract your perfect new partner. Stop accepting less than you deserve in your relationships and start sending your attraction quotient through the roof!
Love and Accept yourself
"Self approval and self acceptance are the keys to positive change"
self criticism breaks the spirit and undermines an individuals ability to make positive change or attract goodness into their life. Just accept yourself as you are right now, today; this allows the body, mind and spirit to relax and stop worrying. Once we let go, we can start to allow the good things in.
Fed up with being overweight?
"Unblock the emotional barriers to your success now"
Is'nt it time you tried something new, that is designed to to eliminate the mental blocks that keep sabotaging your weight loss efforts? No matter what method you use to lose wieght, getting your mental attitude straight is going to supercharge it's effectiveness!
Forgive and Release the Past
"Forgiveness is the key to your own release"
Holding onto old anger, hurt and upset causes dis-ease within the body. If you do not forgive, YOU remain the victim.
Sometimes the hardest person to forgive is ourselves for things we feel we have or have not done. Forgive yourself and others, let it go, release the hurt and anger.
Be prepared to Love Yourself
"Love is the most powerful healing force of all"
Real healing love comes from within... Loving the self brings about healing on all levels and in all things. When you love yourself you do not hurt yourself and you will not hurt others. You cannot truly love another if you do not love yourself
Just be willing
"have an open mind and an open heart"
Monday, May 31, 2010
Love 'really is blind'
American scientists have made an advance to prove Shakespeare's dictum, ‘love is blind and lovers cannot see’.
A brain in love looks like a neurological fireworks display.
The ventral tegmental area and ventral striatum, located in the centre of the brain, light up as the neurotransmitters dopamine and norepinephrine spring into action, causing a person to have short attention spans, feel happy and yearn for the object of her desire.
A 2005 study by Rutgers University biological anthropologist Helen Fisher and colleagues analysed the fMRI brain scans of 17 men and women who were reported being madly in love.
Each image showed the same activity in the brain's reward system as that which takes place in a cocaine addict's brain.
Moreover, the love-struck participants could readily tick off traits or characteristics they didn't particularly like about their lovers, but under the influence of pleasure-enhancing dopamine and other monoamines, they quickly ignore those faults.
A brain in love looks like a neurological fireworks display.
The ventral tegmental area and ventral striatum, located in the centre of the brain, light up as the neurotransmitters dopamine and norepinephrine spring into action, causing a person to have short attention spans, feel happy and yearn for the object of her desire.
A 2005 study by Rutgers University biological anthropologist Helen Fisher and colleagues analysed the fMRI brain scans of 17 men and women who were reported being madly in love.
Each image showed the same activity in the brain's reward system as that which takes place in a cocaine addict's brain.
Moreover, the love-struck participants could readily tick off traits or characteristics they didn't particularly like about their lovers, but under the influence of pleasure-enhancing dopamine and other monoamines, they quickly ignore those faults.
"quotable quotes"
“The sum of the whole is this: walk and be happy; walk and be healthy. The best way to lengthen out our days is to walk steadily and with a purpose.”- Charles Dickens
“Life is divided into three terms - that which was, which is, and which will be. Let us learn from the past to profit by the present, and from the present to live better in the future.”- William Wordsworth
“A person who doubts himself is like a man who would enlist in the ranks of his enemies and bear arm He makes his failure certain by himself person to be convinced of it.”- Alexander Dumas
“Worry, the interest paid by those who borrow trouble”- George Washington
“A deaf husband and a blind wife are always a happy couple.” - Danish Proverb
“Life is divided into three terms - that which was, which is, and which will be. Let us learn from the past to profit by the present, and from the present to live better in the future.”- William Wordsworth
“A person who doubts himself is like a man who would enlist in the ranks of his enemies and bear arm He makes his failure certain by himself person to be convinced of it.”- Alexander Dumas
“Worry, the interest paid by those who borrow trouble”- George Washington
“A deaf husband and a blind wife are always a happy couple.” - Danish Proverb
Story Of Life- Helen Keller- part I
It is with a kind of fear that I begin to write the history of my
life. I have, as it were, a superstitious hesitation in lifting
the veil that clings about my childhood like a golden mist. The
task of writing an autobiography is a difficult one. When I try
to classify my earliest impressions, I find that fact and fancy
look alike across the years that link the past with the present.
The woman paints the child's experiences in her own fantasy. A
few impressions stand out vividly from the first years of my
life; but "the shadows of the prison-house are on the rest."
Besides, many of the joys and sorrows of childhood have lost
their poignancy; and many incidents of vital importance in my
early education have been forgotten in the excitement of great
discoveries. In order, therefore, not to be tedious I shall try
to present in a series of sketches only the episodes that seem to
me to be the most interesting and important.
I was born on June 27, 1880, in Tuscumbia, a little town of
northern Alabama.
The family on my father's side is descended from Caspar Keller, a
native of Switzerland, who settled in Maryland. One of my Swiss
ancestors was the first teacher of the deaf in Zurich and wrote a
book on the subject of their education--rather a singular
coincidence; though it is true that there is no king who has not
had a slave among his ancestors, and no slave who has not had a
king among his.
My grandfather, Caspar Keller's son, "entered" large tracts of
land in Alabama and finally settled there. I have been told that
once a year he went from Tuscumbia to Philadelphia on horseback
to purchase supplies for the plantation, and my aunt has in her
possession many of the letters to his family, which give charming
and vivid accounts of these trips.
My Grandmother Keller was a daughter of one of Lafayette's aides,
Alexander Moore, and granddaughter of Alexander Spotswood, an
early Colonial Governor of Virginia. She was also second cousin
to Robert E. Lee.
My father, Arthur H. Keller, was a captain in the Confederate
Army, and my mother, Kate Adams, was his second wife and many
years younger. Her grandfather, Benjamin Adams, married Susanna
E. Goodhue, and lived in Newbury, Massachusetts, for many years.
Their son, Charles Adams, was born in Newburyport, Massachusetts,
and moved to Helena, Arkansas. When the Civil War broke out, he
fought on the side of the South and became a brigadier-general.
He married Lucy Helen Everett, who belonged to the same family of
Everetts as Edward Everett and Dr. Edward Everett Hale. After the
war was over the family moved to Memphis, Tennessee.
I lived, up to the time of the illness that deprived me of my
sight and hearing, in a tiny house consisting of a large square
room and a small one, in which the servant slept. It is a custom
in the South to build a small house near the homestead as an
annex to be used on occasion. Such a house my father built after
the Civil War, and when he married my mother they went to live in
it. It was completely covered with vines, climbing roses and
honeysuckles. From the garden it looked like an arbour. The
little porch was hidden from view by a screen of yellow roses and
Southern smilax. It was the favourite haunt of humming-birds and
bees.
The Keller homestead, where the family lived, was a few steps
from our little rose-bower. It was called "Ivy Green" because the
house and the surrounding trees and fences were covered with
beautiful English ivy. Its old-fashioned garden was the paradise
of my childhood.
Even in the days before my teacher came, I used to feel along the
square stiff boxwood hedges, and, guided by the sense of smell
would find the first violets and lilies. There, too, after a fit
of temper, I went to find comfort and to hide my hot face in the
cool leaves and grass. What joy it was to lose myself in that
garden of flowers, to wander happily from spot to spot, until,
coming suddenly upon a beautiful vine, I recognized it by its
leaves and blossoms, and knew it was the vine which covered the
tumble-down summer-house at the farther end of the garden! Here,
also, were trailing clematis, drooping jessamine, and some rare
sweet flowers called butterfly lilies, because their fragile
petals resemble butterflies' wings. But the roses--they were
loveliest of all. Never have I found in the greenhouses of the
North such heart-satisfying roses as the climbing roses of my
southern home. They used to hang in long festoons from our porch,
filling the whole air with their fragrance, untainted by any
earthy smell; and in the early morning, washed in the dew, they
felt so soft, so pure, I could not help wondering if they did not
resemble the asphodels of God's garden.
The beginning of my life was simple and much like every other
little life. I came, I saw, I conquered, as the first baby in the
family always does. There was the usual amount of discussion as
to a name for me. The first baby in the family was not to be
lightly named, every one was emphatic about that. My father
suggested the name of Mildred Campbell, an ancestor whom he
highly esteemed, and he declined to take any further part in the
discussion. My mother solved the problem by giving it as her wish
that I should be called after her mother, whose maiden name was
Helen Everett. But in the excitement of carrying me to church my
father lost the name on the way, very naturally, since it was one
in which he had declined to have a part. When the minister asked
him for it, he just remembered that it had been decided to call
me after my grandmother, and he gave her name as Helen Adams.
I am told that while I was still in long dresses I showed many
signs of an eager, self-asserting disposition. Everything that I
saw other people do I insisted upon imitating. At six months I
could pipe out "How d'ye," and one day I attracted every one's
attention by saying "Tea, tea, tea" quite plainly. Even after my
illness I remembered one of the words I had learned in these
early months. It was the word "water," and I continued to make
some sound for that word after all other speech was lost. I
ceased making the sound "wah-wah" only when I learned to spell
the word.
They tell me I walked the day I was a year old. My mother had
just taken me out of the bath-tub and was holding me in her lap,
when I was suddenly attracted by the flickering shadows of leaves
that danced in the sunlight on the smooth floor. I slipped from
my mother's lap and almost ran toward them. The impulse gone, I
fell down and cried for her to take me up in her arms.
These happy days did not last long. One brief spring, musical
with the song of robin and mocking-bird, one summer rich in fruit
and roses, one autumn of gold and crimson sped by and left their
gifts at the feet of an eager, delighted child. Then, in the
dreary month of February, came the illness which closed my eyes
and ears and plunged me into the unconsciousness of a new-born
baby. They called it acute congestion of the stomach and brain.
The doctor thought I could not live. Early one morning, however,
the fever left me as suddenly and mysteriously as it had come.
There was great rejoicing in the family that morning, but no one,
not even the doctor, knew that I should never see or hear again.
I fancy I still have confused recollections of that illness. I
especially remember the tenderness with which my mother tried to
soothe me in my waling hours of fret and pain, and the agony and
bewilderment with which I awoke after a tossing half sleep, and
turned my eyes, so dry and hot, to the wall away from the
once-loved light, which came to me dim and yet more dim each day.
But, except for these fleeting memories, if, indeed, they be
memories, it all seems very unreal, like a nightmare. Gradually I
got used to the silence and darkness that surrounded me and
forgot that it had ever been different, until she came--my
teacher--who was to set my spirit free. But during the first
nineteen months of my life I had caught glimpses of broad, green
fields, a luminous sky, trees and flowers which the darkness that
followed could not wholly blot out. If we have once seen, "the
day is ours, and what the day has shown."
life. I have, as it were, a superstitious hesitation in lifting
the veil that clings about my childhood like a golden mist. The
task of writing an autobiography is a difficult one. When I try
to classify my earliest impressions, I find that fact and fancy
look alike across the years that link the past with the present.
The woman paints the child's experiences in her own fantasy. A
few impressions stand out vividly from the first years of my
life; but "the shadows of the prison-house are on the rest."
Besides, many of the joys and sorrows of childhood have lost
their poignancy; and many incidents of vital importance in my
early education have been forgotten in the excitement of great
discoveries. In order, therefore, not to be tedious I shall try
to present in a series of sketches only the episodes that seem to
me to be the most interesting and important.
I was born on June 27, 1880, in Tuscumbia, a little town of
northern Alabama.
The family on my father's side is descended from Caspar Keller, a
native of Switzerland, who settled in Maryland. One of my Swiss
ancestors was the first teacher of the deaf in Zurich and wrote a
book on the subject of their education--rather a singular
coincidence; though it is true that there is no king who has not
had a slave among his ancestors, and no slave who has not had a
king among his.
My grandfather, Caspar Keller's son, "entered" large tracts of
land in Alabama and finally settled there. I have been told that
once a year he went from Tuscumbia to Philadelphia on horseback
to purchase supplies for the plantation, and my aunt has in her
possession many of the letters to his family, which give charming
and vivid accounts of these trips.
My Grandmother Keller was a daughter of one of Lafayette's aides,
Alexander Moore, and granddaughter of Alexander Spotswood, an
early Colonial Governor of Virginia. She was also second cousin
to Robert E. Lee.
My father, Arthur H. Keller, was a captain in the Confederate
Army, and my mother, Kate Adams, was his second wife and many
years younger. Her grandfather, Benjamin Adams, married Susanna
E. Goodhue, and lived in Newbury, Massachusetts, for many years.
Their son, Charles Adams, was born in Newburyport, Massachusetts,
and moved to Helena, Arkansas. When the Civil War broke out, he
fought on the side of the South and became a brigadier-general.
He married Lucy Helen Everett, who belonged to the same family of
Everetts as Edward Everett and Dr. Edward Everett Hale. After the
war was over the family moved to Memphis, Tennessee.
I lived, up to the time of the illness that deprived me of my
sight and hearing, in a tiny house consisting of a large square
room and a small one, in which the servant slept. It is a custom
in the South to build a small house near the homestead as an
annex to be used on occasion. Such a house my father built after
the Civil War, and when he married my mother they went to live in
it. It was completely covered with vines, climbing roses and
honeysuckles. From the garden it looked like an arbour. The
little porch was hidden from view by a screen of yellow roses and
Southern smilax. It was the favourite haunt of humming-birds and
bees.
The Keller homestead, where the family lived, was a few steps
from our little rose-bower. It was called "Ivy Green" because the
house and the surrounding trees and fences were covered with
beautiful English ivy. Its old-fashioned garden was the paradise
of my childhood.
Even in the days before my teacher came, I used to feel along the
square stiff boxwood hedges, and, guided by the sense of smell
would find the first violets and lilies. There, too, after a fit
of temper, I went to find comfort and to hide my hot face in the
cool leaves and grass. What joy it was to lose myself in that
garden of flowers, to wander happily from spot to spot, until,
coming suddenly upon a beautiful vine, I recognized it by its
leaves and blossoms, and knew it was the vine which covered the
tumble-down summer-house at the farther end of the garden! Here,
also, were trailing clematis, drooping jessamine, and some rare
sweet flowers called butterfly lilies, because their fragile
petals resemble butterflies' wings. But the roses--they were
loveliest of all. Never have I found in the greenhouses of the
North such heart-satisfying roses as the climbing roses of my
southern home. They used to hang in long festoons from our porch,
filling the whole air with their fragrance, untainted by any
earthy smell; and in the early morning, washed in the dew, they
felt so soft, so pure, I could not help wondering if they did not
resemble the asphodels of God's garden.
The beginning of my life was simple and much like every other
little life. I came, I saw, I conquered, as the first baby in the
family always does. There was the usual amount of discussion as
to a name for me. The first baby in the family was not to be
lightly named, every one was emphatic about that. My father
suggested the name of Mildred Campbell, an ancestor whom he
highly esteemed, and he declined to take any further part in the
discussion. My mother solved the problem by giving it as her wish
that I should be called after her mother, whose maiden name was
Helen Everett. But in the excitement of carrying me to church my
father lost the name on the way, very naturally, since it was one
in which he had declined to have a part. When the minister asked
him for it, he just remembered that it had been decided to call
me after my grandmother, and he gave her name as Helen Adams.
I am told that while I was still in long dresses I showed many
signs of an eager, self-asserting disposition. Everything that I
saw other people do I insisted upon imitating. At six months I
could pipe out "How d'ye," and one day I attracted every one's
attention by saying "Tea, tea, tea" quite plainly. Even after my
illness I remembered one of the words I had learned in these
early months. It was the word "water," and I continued to make
some sound for that word after all other speech was lost. I
ceased making the sound "wah-wah" only when I learned to spell
the word.
They tell me I walked the day I was a year old. My mother had
just taken me out of the bath-tub and was holding me in her lap,
when I was suddenly attracted by the flickering shadows of leaves
that danced in the sunlight on the smooth floor. I slipped from
my mother's lap and almost ran toward them. The impulse gone, I
fell down and cried for her to take me up in her arms.
These happy days did not last long. One brief spring, musical
with the song of robin and mocking-bird, one summer rich in fruit
and roses, one autumn of gold and crimson sped by and left their
gifts at the feet of an eager, delighted child. Then, in the
dreary month of February, came the illness which closed my eyes
and ears and plunged me into the unconsciousness of a new-born
baby. They called it acute congestion of the stomach and brain.
The doctor thought I could not live. Early one morning, however,
the fever left me as suddenly and mysteriously as it had come.
There was great rejoicing in the family that morning, but no one,
not even the doctor, knew that I should never see or hear again.
I fancy I still have confused recollections of that illness. I
especially remember the tenderness with which my mother tried to
soothe me in my waling hours of fret and pain, and the agony and
bewilderment with which I awoke after a tossing half sleep, and
turned my eyes, so dry and hot, to the wall away from the
once-loved light, which came to me dim and yet more dim each day.
But, except for these fleeting memories, if, indeed, they be
memories, it all seems very unreal, like a nightmare. Gradually I
got used to the silence and darkness that surrounded me and
forgot that it had ever been different, until she came--my
teacher--who was to set my spirit free. But during the first
nineteen months of my life I had caught glimpses of broad, green
fields, a luminous sky, trees and flowers which the darkness that
followed could not wholly blot out. If we have once seen, "the
day is ours, and what the day has shown."
Speed of your smile can influence people's first impressions of you
The speed of your smile can shape the first impressions others have of you, according to a new research.
Smiling too quickly can lead others to think that you are insincere, while slow grins appear more genuine.
As part of the research, a team of business advisors examined how smiling can give clients a positive impression.
They discovered that a smile, which appears too swiftly and does not extend to the eyes can sends signals that you lack sincerity.
They found that people should avoid three types of grin:
The Enthusiast - A huge smile showing all of your teeth and wide eyes can be overbearing.
The Big Freeze - A constant, practiced smile that lacks sincerity.
The Robot - A tiny, polite smile that doesn't display warmth.
"Studies show people perceive a slower, natural smile which floods the entire face to be more genuine," the Sun quoted Lesley Meechan of the Glasgow-based Go Group as saying.
Psychologist Bridget Hanna added: "Smiling all the time appears over-pleasing and lowers your status."
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
SOME TIPS FOR YOU DEARS....
For The People You Know
For The People Those Unknown
For Our World
- Leave a snack for an unsuspecting co-worker or friend.
- Give a friend your favorite inspirational book with a personal note attached.
- Connect two friends who had not previously met each other.
- Share an inspirational story from today's news.
- Make a lunch for someone and slip a joke in it.
- Write positive notes about your family or friends and share them.
- Help someone with a chore, unexpectedly.
- Do a 'dance of joy' for someone close to you.
- Using crayons, make your own card for someone you love.
- Write a song, poem or a note for a loved one.
- Get in touch with an old friend who you'd like to reconnect with.
- Write a thank you note to a teacher who inspired you.
- Call a mentor to say thank you.
For The People Those Unknown
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For Our World
- Research the most eco-friendly materials for clothing and personal care and share them with your friends.
- Clean up litter on your block.
- Send a thank you note to a person or business helping the world.
- Go to the nearest park and clean up as much as you can!
- Find 3 stories of earth-friendly people and share them.
- Call an animal shelter and donate at least one item they need.
- Stand outside a supermarket and give people reusable shopping bags.
- Hand out long-life light bulbs to those around you.
- Give an eco-friendly gift to at least 1 neighbor.
- Plant a fruit tree where it will thrive.
- Green your food! Cook a locally grown, organic, or vegetarian meal for your friends.
- Hug a tree in public, inspire another to do the same.
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- Make and post signs with tips to reduce water use.
Sunday, May 16, 2010
10 Things Science Says Will Make You Happy
Savor Everyday Moments
Pause now and then to smell a rose or watch children at play. Study participants who took time to “savor” ordinary events that they normally hurried through, or to think back on pleasant moments from their day, “showed significant increases in happiness and reductions in depression,” says psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky.
Avoid Comparisons
While keeping up with the Joneses is part of American culture, comparing ourselves with others can be damaging to happiness and self-esteem. Instead of comparing ourselves to others, focusing on our own personal achievement leads to greater satisfaction, according to Lyubomirsky.
Put Money Low on the List
People who put money high on their priority list are more at risk for depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem, according to researchers Tim Kasser and Richard Ryan. Their findings hold true across nations and cultures. “The more we seek satisfactions in material goods, the less we find them there,” Ryan says. “The satisfaction has a short half-life—it’s very fleeting.” Money-seekers also score lower on tests of vitality and self-actualization.
Have Meaningful Goals
“People who strive for something significant, whether it’s learning a new craft or raising moral children, are far happier than those who don’t have strong dreams or aspirations,” say Ed Diener and Robert Biswas-Diener. “As humans, we actually require a sense of meaning to thrive.” Harvard’s resident happiness professor, Tal Ben-Shahar, agrees, “Happiness lies at the intersection between pleasure and meaning. Whether at work or at home, the goal is to engage in activities that are both personally significant and enjoyable.”
Take Initiative at Work
How happy you are at work depends in part on how much initiative you take. Researcher Amy Wrzesniewski says that when we express creativity, help others, suggest improvements, or do additional tasks on the job, we make our work more rewarding and feel more in control.
Make Friends, Treasure Family
Happier people tend to have good families, friends, and supportive relationships, say Diener and Biswas-Diener. But it’s not enough to be the life of the party if you’re surrounded by shallow acquaintances. “We don’t just need relationships, we need close ones” that involve understanding and caring.
Smile Even When You Don’t Feel Like It
It sounds simple, but it works. “Happy people…see possibilities, opportunities, and success. When they think of the future, they are optimistic, and when they review the past, they tend to savor the high points,” say Diener and Biswas-Diener. Even if you weren’t born looking at the glass as half-full, with practice, a positive outlook can become a habit.
Say Thank You Like You Mean It
People who keep gratitude journals on a weekly basis are healthier, more optimistic, and more likely to make progress toward achieving personal goals, according to author Robert Emmons. Research by Martin Seligman, founder of positive psychology, revealed that people who write “gratitude letters” to someone who made a difference in their lives score higher on happiness, and lower on depression—and the effect lasts for weeks.
Get Out and Exercise
A Duke University study shows that exercise may be just as effective as drugs in treating depression, without all the side effects and expense. Other research shows that in addition to health benefits, regular exercise offers a sense of accomplishment and opportunity for social interaction, releases feel-good endorphins, and boosts self-esteem.
Give It Away, Give It Away Now!
Make altruism and giving part of your life, and be purposeful about it. Researcher Stephen Post says helping a neighbor, volunteering, or donating goods and services results in a “helper’s high,” and you get more health benefits than you would from exercise or quitting smoking. Listening to a friend, passing on your skills, celebrating others’ successes, and forgiveness also contribute to happiness, he says. Researcher Elizabeth Dunn found that those who spend money on others reported much greater happiness than those who spend it on themselves.
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